Tuesday, August 28, 2012

My dad's health is bad, and I want him to hold my first child

My dad's health is bad, and I want him to hold my first child.?
My father's health is going down hill, and we just found out today that he might have prostate cancer but we wont know till May 2nd. He has had to have two stents put in his arteries to his heart because they were 99% blocked and it was only God he didnt die then and there. I want my father to see my first child and to hold him/her but my husband does not want to have children for 3 years. Last night he said he would have children now because he loves me and thats what I want and he understands why I want one now. But I still feel bad because I know deep down inside he doesnt want one now. He said he would be very happy if I got pregnant and knows he will melt when he see's the child for the first time... he said since he loves me and that I mean alot to him he will do this for me... is it wrong to get pregnant even though I know deep down he does not want to but he says its ok because of the circumstances? I want his child so bad and so its not just my dad's health why I want one. Before my dad's health even started to get bad I have had baby fever very bad and have wanted one for a while. I grew up with only one grandparent and I dont want me to tell my children oh if you only knew your grandfather he was an amazing man, because thats all I heard from my parents about my grandparents who died before I was born. I am very very close to my father and I want him to see my child. Thats not wrong is it? I am very lucky I have a husband who understands and puts my first. He is amazing. I just feel bad in some way because its not exactly what he wants. I am the same with you Mum2be... my husband as well is sort of in denial about my father being sick. My father has enfazema and he has already had one heart attack from it and enfazema isnt cureable it just keeps getting worse. Thats why my dad's ateries are clogged. My husband's father just died about 3 weeks ago, and so thats why he does understand why I want children now because his father didnt get to see our children.
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I hope he fill better
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Your dad wants you do to what makes YOU happy. Not him. If this time in your life isn't the right time to start a family, than don't do it. Wait till it's time. Because honestly, you could get pregnant and nine months from now your dad might not be here anymore. Just because your dad wont be able to hold your first child doesn't mean he won't be there. I'm sure he'd be happy knowing you had a child when the time was right, when both you and your husband were ready....than to hurry up and have one just because he was ill.
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You know what? The timing may not be what your hubby had planned, but he sure sounds like an awesome guy. Take him at his word and, God willing, have a child. I think you'll be okay. And he's right... when he sees that little face, he'll melt like warm buttah. They always do.
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i feel you there my father has mylofribrosis (bone marrow desiese) which leads to cancer, hes been sick for about 3 years now really bad since i left town 2 years ago, so i dont get to see the poor bugger much either which does not help at all , im 36 wks with my first and im so scared that my dad will never get to see/smell/hold his grandchild. he is getting worse and worse as the days go on i have visited as many times as i can as we are 1500km's away from my family. the last time i was there i was so upset with the way he looked i only lasted a little over a week there, it really scared me to see him like that, and i know my mother and sister see him everyday so i feel for them to its not a good thing to see someone you love just dissapearing like he is. because the big day is coming up soon i have found myself quite upset everyday cause i always think the worst as you do, i just want my dad to see what his baby girl has created b4 anything happens and that could be anytime. so i really do feel for you but i can not give any advise as im trying to cope with everything on my own at the moment , can talk to my hubby he is in denile about the whole thing he is preety close to dad as well, so everytime i bring it up we end up arguing. so i sort of dont say anything to him anymore he seems to think this is cureable but it isnt - it is non reversable- sorry to ramble so much but i do know what your are going threw i wish you and your family all the best - spend what time you can with them as they will not be here forever!!
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I went through something similar with my father. My dad had always been a very weak person, constantly getting sick and running in and out of the hospital. He got very sick though in August 85. Me being his only biological child, I wanted him to see a biological grandchild and see me be a mother etc. My husband and I were both young and had only been married for a year. He wanted to wait another year or two before having kids, while I on the other hand did not. I come from a big family, wanted one of my own and wanted my father to see me raise them. I knew he wouldn't be able to see my kids grow up, but I wanted him to at least see and hold one of them. My husband agreed simply because he saw how much it meant to me. We found out we were pregnant in mid Nov and that the baby would be due in June. My dad saw me pregnant, saw ultrasound pictures, listened to me share my pregnancy experiences, discussed baby names etc. He passed away though on March 8, 1986. I was crushed that he didn't get to see the baby and extremely annoyed with myself for a number of reasons. A few nights before I gave birth though, I had a dream about my father. In the dream, I was sitting in the kitchen crying and my dad asked me what was wrong. I looked up and told him that I was upset that he wouldn't be able to hold or see my first baby. He laughed and said, "Of course I've seen the baby. She's a beautiful baby girl, but she's BALD as can be, Jen! She doesn't even have EYEBROWS or EYELASHES!" And in my dream I kept saying, Bald? A girl? And he said, "Yup..and she's going to be a rule tester, you'll see." My bald baby girl was born on June 3, 1986. I didn't think anything of it until I saw that she didn't have eyelashes or eyebrows. I cried then and there. We named her Jaclyn, after my father Jack, and she was a rule tester...loved to see how much she could get away with. So I guess in a way, he saw my baby. My suggestion would be to go with your gut feeling. I know this probably doesn't help you out much, but it's the best advice I can give you. You don't know where everyone will be 6ms, 1yr from now, so there is no right answer. Just remember that whether your father is there or not when you have your first child, have a little faith...he'll see your baby either way. I wish you the best of luck and you're in our thoughts and prayers.
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As someone else said, your father wants you to do what will make YOU happy. It sounds like your husband is also ready for a child, even though he said previously that he wants to wait. If that's what you want, go for it. While you should have a child purely because you and your husband want one, I'll share a little anecdote with you. My in - laws' other grandchildren live in another state, and they don't see them often. Needless to say, they were thrilled when my son was born. Unfortunately, my FIL was diagnosed with cancer when my son was three months old. The prognosis was not good; it looked as if he only had a few months to live. I brought my son to see him almost every day in the hospital. The doctors and nurses said that it was really one of the best treatments for him, as seeing his grandson really lifted his spirits. Well, after a surgery to remove a large tumor, my FIL was sent home. Amazingly, he bounced back and went on to live another three active and fairly healthy years. Sadly, my FIL ended his battle with cancer last July. Right before the funeral, my MIL told me how grateful she was that her husband got to spend so much time with my son, as seeing his grandson was one of the things that really kept him going. I'm not saying that having a new grandchild will save your father's life. At the risk of being brutally honest, he might not live to hold your child. But I think you know where I'm going with this. I'm keeping your father in my prayers. Good luck.

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Friday, August 24, 2012

How can Bush ask for 200 billion for war - yet say 35 billion for children's health is irresponsible

How can Bush ask for 200 billion for war - yet say 35 billion for children's health is irresponsible?
De Deuce: if it's so preposterous - why do over 70% of Americans support it, along with a lot of republicans. Only ones NOT supporting it are the repubs who are afraid to go against their president. Dee Dee: It's poorly written so they shouldn't support it? Yet, billions and billions have been scammed by no-bid contractors from the war appropriations - not to mention the billions we "just lost." But I'm sure you support funding the military.
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Because he's an idiot.
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hes greedy son of bitch sad huh
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y dunt u bcom president smartas
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Don't know. However, it makes me wonder what this countries priorities.......and who voted for this idiot?!
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thats what this man had been doing last few years!!!
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Maybe his thinking the profits war could give him? rather than giving the children money which he can't have any profit or any use?
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the politicians only tell you what they want you to think. I don't understand why they want to spend any money rebuilding Iraq when its only going to get blown up again
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Simple, Let me ask you THIS question. Suppose, for the sake of an argument, that we as a nation have been spending 200 Billion a year on the war and, although we didn't LIKE it, we thought that as a nation, it was OK? HOW would you feel if Bush ASKED for $1,200,000,000,000 thats 1.2 Trillion dollars, about 6 times the 200 billion we HAD been payig for the war? I am CERTAIN that that amout of increase would get your attention and FAST. Well, THAT is exactly what happened in the SCHIP program. The program has been going along quite swimmingly at some 6.4 Billion dollars a year. the Senate (aka Harry Reid) decided to pick a fight with GW and MAKE him veto a Childrens Health Care program so that people like YOU would get their panties all in a WAD and come on a venue like this and try to throw GW under the bus. The Senate KNEW that asking 6 TIMES the previous years allotment of money would trigger his veto-and it did. But all it did was waste time. With nothing in the hopper to assist the SCHIP program the kids get nothing and the SENATE KNEW THAT. GW is willing to sit down and negotiate a new SCHIP program with the Senate, even to including more money in it, but NOT 36 Billion. This is the way Washington politics works. You send some preopostorus bill to the President and when he is forced to veto it for gross stupidity, the Dems like to go out and blame that mean ole' Bush guy. It is silly. They knew he would veto it and they did not care enough to make a bill that the President WOULD sign so that the funds could be made available to the states and to the children. Nothing new here. They did the same thing on the funding for Iraq. It's called grandstanding and for YOU it seems to have worked just as planned.
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The welfare of Iraq comes before the welfare of the American citizens.
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I must agree with the first answer; he is an idiot!! Seriously though, Bush continues to send our service men and women to war. We have lost so many of our military service persons, when is it ever going to stop? Yet he continues to want to sink money into this war, that is what I consider completely irresponsible! Now not to mention, he is wanting to take away children's health insurance that is provided in some states. Personally I can't wait to see him out of office!!
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SCHIP is poorly-written legislation. In Minnesota and Wisconsin, for example, under the current program, 87% and 66% (respectively) of those enrolled in SCHIP are adults. So the whole "it's for the kids" is disingenuous at best and fradulent at worse. *Expanding* the current program then, is irresponsible especially when it kicks off some of those currently covered.
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Because his priorities are f***ed.
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he has his priorities screwed up.

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Monday, August 20, 2012

How do you get people to understand your child's health condition

How do you get people to understand your child's health condition?
My daughter Bella has severe asthma, her main trigger is cigg smoke and residue on people who smoke. We've been invited to her cousin's first birthday party, I was set to go until I realized her great grandmother will be there...Great Grandma is a pack a day smoker and will smoke during the party outside. Back in June of 08, it was 20 minutes of sitting in great grandma's lap that sent Bella to PICU for three days where she was formally diagnosed with asthma. I tried talking to our uncle last night and he thinks it's the smoke and as long as she's outside smoking, all is good. I told him repeatably that it wasn't just the smoke but the residue and he didn't get it. I told him I would offend his mother if I showed up and told her she couldn't come near the baby, not to mention we'd have to stay outside the entire time, he just didn't get it. I talked to a specialist this morning who said under no circumstances could we go. How do I make them understand that we aren't trying to dissassociate ourselves with that side of the family, it's just that Great grandma makes for a dangerous environment...What would you say? I am going to invite them down to visit us and go to the aquarium on the weekend of their choice, alternatively we could also head out to see them when Great-Grandma goes back to San Fran. (They live about 2 hours away) Alicia, Yes people everywhere smoke, but they don't all touch my daughter or stay within a few feet of her for longer than 1-2 minutes, it's people who touch and remain in close distance for 5 minutes plus that can hurt her. You obviously don't deal with asthma. Stay@- I've only met her 6 times in 8 years, it's his gg. She's very strict and insists everything is her way and she's right about everything, she WILL NOT, not smoke : / Her own children are afraid to question her... Just to be clear, We ARE NOT going, I just don't know what to say to these people...
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Tell them the truth. If they don't like it, oh well. Whats important is yuor child's health. People rarely don't understand that when it comes to my daughter's asthma either.
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It is a very unfortunate situation for you and the grandmother however, your child's health comes first and if the doctor said so, well, then blame it on the doctor. You can not explain anything to stubborn people, keep that in mind always ! Tell the old lady: "the doctor said so and we all love Bella way too much, don't we?" There is no other way to put this. Be blunt !!!!!!!!
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I would just tell them, plain & simple. "Bella is severely allergic to smoke and smoke residue. She will have a severe asthma attack and i do not want my daughter going through that again. I've spoken with her doctor and he suggested that we not attend the party for Bella's health safety."
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Ask them if they can smell the cigarettes on great grandmothers clothes? When they say yes say that is what can KILL Bella. I am not taking the risk with her life good luck and stand up to them your child is more important than hurting others feelings A story that might help you explain for a tv documentary on nut allergies the reporter takes a nut allergy sufferer into a pub where no one was eating nuts and sit him so he can not see anyone in the bar after about 2o minutes he starts to have problems breathing and has to leave the reporter walks around the bar and finds someone who has opened a packet of nuts within the last few minutes , there was no way the sufferer could have seen or heard the packet being opened and the barman confirmed it was the only packet he had sold in the previous half hour.
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Well you know, there is going to be cigarette smoke and residue on people all over the place..everywhere you go and she is not going to be able to avoid it ever. This sounds like something that may be a problem for her for her entire life. Sorry, but you can't expect people all over the place to accomodate your childs needs. I do understand as a mother, your concern is not the other people but your child. However, that being said, it is you and your child with the problem and you aren't going to be able to get rid of all the cigarettes and people smelling of cigarettes so you need to adapt. You need to talk to the specialist about finding a way your daughter can be around these people and not be affected. Maybe its a special med or special all around treatment or a mask or something, but that is what you need to work out. Thumbs down! Well I guess this lady must find a way to get rid of every trace of cigarette smoke from the world.,
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They don't really have to understand it or believe it. You can keep trying to explain, especially if you value the relationships and you feel that this is hurting the relationships. But, in the end, if they allow their ignorance to ruin the relationship, was it really worth saving anyway? Would you want to maintain relationships with people who thought you were exaggerating or who didn't care about your child's health & safety? Are those really the kind of people you want to be spending time with? I remember my BIL's wedding, when my then 3yo milk-allergic son was the ring-bearer. He was across the room from me, talking to some teens from the other family. I saw them handing something to him & ran across the room, snatching m&m's out of his hand. They thought I was crazy. Some nutty mom who won't let her kid have just a little bit of candy... I don't care.
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You just tell them that going to a birthday party is not worth killing your daughter. That's what I had to do when my son was young - cats put him in the hospital immediately. Being blunt is sometimes the only way to make people "get it".
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okay icky situation no if ands or buts. have you talked to great grandma? what does she say? i get shes probably old and set in her ways but she can't be dumb, right? everyone who smokes knows its bad. can great grandma make an exception for her great grand daughter? i know my grandmother would give her right arm for my daughter. heck shed do it for me. i would have a heart to heart with her myself. im one of those people who think knowing such an extended family is important. maybe my own personal family makes me that way but i do. i actually have a picture of my daughter with her great great grandfather. how cool is that? if she doesn't see reason then she can't be as important as i'd like to think she should be. any reasonable adult should think of the child first, addiction second. my two cents. EDIT - oh that stinks. then you gotta do whats best for Bella. its sad that, that lady can't see past the end of her nose for her great granddaughter. but you know what its her loss, completely and totally. don't go at all. the others should still understand. its sad that no one can stand up to the lady.
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Unfortunately some people just don't believe it till they see it. My stepsis used to make our parents change shirts to hold her babies after they had smoked because her twins had been premature. They later developed allergies and asthma around 3 years old. I thought she was being silly at the time, going overboard, but looking back, she did what she had to do AND put up with some of us thinking she was silly and I'm sure some even had worse thoughts. You do what you have to do to protect your child and perhaps it wouldn't be a bad idea to get a pamplet or look online for some info that you can print out and give to the relatives. Good Luck!
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While she isn't near as sensitive to it as your daughter, my little girl is bothered by smoke and smoke residue too. (My grandmother and I are too.) I have pretty much given up on convincing people that I know what I'm talking about. They will agree that it doesn't smell good. But it doesn't bother them to the point of being a medical problem, so they don't understand how it could bother someone else to that point. People think I am raising my daughter to be stuck up or that I am taking her complaints too seriously. I will admit that she is a little dramatic about how much it affects her. But I have noticed ... When she spends more time around her father and her uncle (who smoke a lot, but they don't smoke around her) she is more prone to getting upper respiratory infections. Her health is important. I will not compromise it on a regular basis just to avoid being seen as stuckup by the inlaws.
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I simply wouldn't take my child to homes where people have smoked. It's not a big deal, in my opinion. Just don't go. They don't have to understand why, they just have to understand that you won't allow it. Plain and simple.

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Thursday, August 16, 2012

Mothers: Did you worry excessively about your unborn child possibly having health concerns

Mothers: Did you worry excessively about your unborn child possibly having health concerns?
Hi guys, sorry I keep on asking all these random questions but this is one of my only resources right now. I'm 18 and pregnant and really freaked out about what to expect-- Lately I'm really getting too wrapped up in thinking about whether my boyfriend or I have any genes that could cause or baby to have any physical or mental defects...I'm paranoid that if I even eat the wrong thing once that my baby has a huge risk of this.... I don't know what I would do if that were to happen, I know the right thing to do would be to accept my responsibility but what if I couldn't....? What if WE couldn't.... Sorry I'm just really tired and getting myself all worked up >_<!
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I wished I could have an ultrasound everyday! I worried my butt off, which is NO good for you or baby. You'll know if something is wrong, and if there is going to be some sort of disability with the baby, you'll most likely know well before the birth. What I got for my worries was this heartbeat thing at toys r us, it rests on your belly and u can listen to the heartbeat whenever you want.
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I didn't really worry about any genes my husband or I might have but I did worry that I might cause something to happen by something I did. I remember calling my doctor's office numerous times about this and that and they would ask me some questions and always ended up telling me that everything was fine. Try not to worry too much. Good luck! : )
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Had the same concern when I was pregnant with my baby. One of my dads brothers is mentaly retarted and my niece was born with autism and adhd! So when I was pregnant I hoped nothing would be wrong with my son. It really scared me to think someone thing could be wrong. All his tests came back ok and he was perfectly fine when he was born. Every mother has those concerns and it's only normal. Just don't stress out on it cuz it's nothing big. Even if there is something wrong it's not gonna make a difference on how much u r gonna love him or her.
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It is normal and natural to worry about your unborn child. Try not to worry though, any problems are usually picked up by your health professional. Ultrasounds are a great relief to see your little one growing and thriving, but for most people they are few and far between. In Australia there are blood tests at around 12 weeks screening for DNA and other disorders along with ultrasound and also the usual 18-20 diagnosis ultrasound. I am grateful my obstetrician has an ultrasound machine in her room, so every appointment except one, i have been lucky enough to see my baby. Im currently 37 weeks pregnant, and i have been lucky enough to see my bubs once a month, now twice a month. It has been great reassurance for me. keep your chin up, try to worry less even though that's hard, follow what you know is good for you and your child, research and always ask questions to be on the safe side, people are always willing to help/answer. Good luck.
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My fiance thinks I drive my self insane worrying about the babies health. I have a very low appetite so i have a huge fear the baby will be tiny and undernourished. Even though my midwife keeps telling me my bub is growing perfect. I wish I was a millionaire and could afford my own ultrasound lol. Dont worry it is normal to have fears, the likely chance is your bub will be perfect. Congratulations on the little one!
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Not really,cause i requested to see a gene-ologist really early in pregnancy(like 15 weeks). I have medicaid so they were happy to cover it. And when you see a gene-ologist you get a LOT more ultrasounds (im 36 weeks and iv had like 5-7 when most women have about 3)! its awsome! i also concieved at 18 (im 19 now) and i know how easy it is to worry. If you can request to see one,it'll make you feel sooooo much better!

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Sunday, August 12, 2012

What's the difference between paying for Children's Health Care and paying for Adult Health Care

What's the difference between paying for Children's Health Care and paying for Adult Health Care?
Like some wouldn't mind paying for kids healthcare, but raise a stink if they have to pay for everyone, including adult's health care. So what's the difference? oh, that's why. :)
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Children cannot work to buy their own. Adults CAN.
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Children can not be responsible for their actions. Adults can make decisions that can determine between paying for their own health care instead of Tattoos, cigarettes, cars, boats, motocycles and the stuff they can do with out
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Absolutely nothing. So lets do health care for all, or drop this crap of paying for health care for parents who could not buy condoms with their food stamp card
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Adults can provide for themselves, kids cant.

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Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Have All Health Insurance Companies Quit Selling Individual Policies For Kids

Have All Health Insurance Companies Quit Selling Individual Policies For Kids?
Thanks to ObamaCare, kids can no longer get health insurance on an individual plan. The companies simply quit writing new business. Now, ALL children are unable to get individual health insurance. Are any companies left offering individual health insurance for children, or did Obama assure all children will be unable to get individual health insurance coverage?
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Blame the insurance companies not Obama. They are the villans here.
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Yes, stupid dumbocrats
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Just about and/or they've gone up 5 times what they used to charge. Oh but wait obama made it so that the insurance cannot turn you away with preexisting conditions...at a 100 times the rate! Read between the lines people!
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I will never understand how such a huge number of people think it is safer to trust the government than the markets. They would rather trust the entity that can legally force you to pay for something without your consent than the businesses who offer their services for a price you freely choose to pay. The choice is freedom (markets) or force (government). And yet, over and over again, history has shown that big government never helps, but ignorant people just keep trying it.
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No, they haven't.
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All insurance companies in my state have quit offering child only policies, as have they in all states which I'm aware. Now, to insure a child at least one parent must also be on the plan. The reason for this is healthcare reform requires insurance companies to cover all pre-existing conditions effect 9/23/10. The companies had to quit writing child only policies to keep the premium from increasing drastically. After they've had a year or so loss experience we'll see what happens.

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Saturday, August 4, 2012

What are the effects of increasing a child by the factor of 32

What are the effects of increasing a child by the factor of 32?
Whar are the affects of increasing a child by the factor of 32 and what are the health implications in these 3 sytems 1. The Skeletal System. 2. The Muscular System. 3. The Respiratory System if the child were increased by this size?
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increasing what by 32? height, volume, weight? age? some other factor? .

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Wednesday, August 1, 2012

What are the laws about child immunization in Washington State

What are the laws about child immunization in Washington State?
I cannot seem to find it on the states health site. Can a parent keep their child from getting immunized in Washington for personal, medical, or religious reasons or only medical and religious?
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If your child is not in day care, requirements for immunizations are for school aged children. If you plan to not immunize your child, a day care (home or center) can refuse you service. Most of the day care centers in my state appear to do so. According to this link, religious, philosophical or personal reasons can be cause for exemption. http://apps.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=28A.210.090

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