| Christians - what is more important - your child's health, or your mind at ease? ? Have you read the latest study on virginity pledges? http://news.yahoo.com/s/hsn/20081229/hl_hsn/manyteensdontkeepvirginitypledges Apparently, most teens dont bother keeping virginity pledges - and they have found that a teen who DOES take a virginity pledge is 10% more likely to engage in unprotected sex, causing them to have higher incidences of teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases than teens that dont try to fool themselves and their parents into thinking that they will not engage in sex before marriage... So, in the end, what is more important? The health of your child, or your mind being at ease that they are promising not to engage in sex - despite actually lying about it and being at higher risk of pregnancy and disease? Bonus question: What is with these "promise rings"? Why do teen girls feel the need to advertise the unused condition of their vaginae to the entire world? I guess the question went right over your head, didnt it Buddy. Teach them how to be moral - just dont deceive yourself or them. Virginity pledges dont work... Liz: "The study also found that teens who took a virginity pledge were 10 percent less likely to use a condom and less likely to use any other form of birth control than their non-pledging counterparts." In other words, they are 10% more likely to have UNPROTECTED SEX. You might want to learn how to comprehend what you read. Religion & Spirituality - 18 Answers  Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions : 1 : This is a no-brainer. Just ask Single Wide Sara Palin. 2 : "holy" crap! 3 : Sex before marriage is sinful and dangerous. You teach your kids to sleep with everything that stands still long enough and I'll teach my kids to be moral, ok? I'm a Christian. I was a virgin all the way through high school and college. I've never slept with anyone but my wife. 4 : i'm a teenager and i've found after learning about stds in school theres no chance i'll be having un protected sex especially at my age anyway. of course childs health is more important. i'd rather my child be safe (when i have one) than my mind. At the end of the day, you've just got to talk to kids about this instead of waiting them to talk to you. i had to ask my mum about periods and i felt upset that she hadn't felt the need to tell me about it and it took someone at school to mention the word period. I know you would have rather had an adult answer this question but your question raised a very important matter, thank you! 5 : BQ: it helps them get laid 6 : Your article doesn't say they are MORE likely. It says they are just as likely. I think a girl should take a virginity pledge because she wants to and she believes in it. If she wants to wear a ring because it makes the pledge feel more special, why not let her? At the same time no one should push her to make such a pledge. 7 : well,, i dk much,, im athiest,, but i would say my kids have there own fucking rights so why uh pressure them into NOT doing something and have them end up doing it. So huh, But..I rly dk 8 : Read the entire article. A researcher using different statistical techniques got a different answer. You can pretty much manipulate stats to get any answer you want. As Mark Twain said there are three types of lies. Lies, damned lies, and statistics. 9 : For every virgin girl, there's a virgin boy. It's not just girls who take those pledges. No parent is lame enough to actually believe that their child will live up to a virginity promise. Parents were children once themselves. They know the pressures and temptations that abound in the world. The importance of a virginity contract is that the child who signs it understands what they're facing and thinks twice before throwing away their most prized possession. 10 : It appears to me that teenagers are becoming more and more clever at deceiving parents and teachers. Personally, I would be more concerned about my child's health. I don't believe in using promise rings. I would expect my children to be obedient to God above all else. One important teaching I would bring to my children is that sex must wait until marriage. It doesn't matter who it is - sex before marriage is a sin. 11 : Stay on the high moral ground. Pledges don't mean anything. It must come from the heart, with a determination to respect yourself at all costs. 12 : you can teach your kids to be a improper person and sleep with any thing that moves. while I will teach my kids to respect people and not to engage in sex to early. You are too young to have children and to be burdened with that at such a early age. 13 : The most important is for us to have peace of mind about our children's good health. Hopefully our kids will never have to go on line to ask a question of strangers. They are comfortable coming to us. We can help them maintain their good health and mature attidues and actions. We hear what we want to hear on the news. If younger kids give promise rings, they don't even know what they are doing. If older kids exchange them they are prone to keep their promise. Maturity is a huge factor here. Peer pressure is too great for anyone who isn't mature. I would counter your question at the end by asking why is it that so many people, at least on this list, feel a need to advertise that they are doing it with everyone who will stay still long enough? Let's face it, it doesn't take intelligence or will power to do it. Dogs do it! It's not a talent. It takes will power and fierce determination to remain a virgin until marriage. I did it. My husband did it. I know at least ten kids who are doing it. There are 13-year olds, who have no business wearing purity rings or even thinking about it. For them it's a novelty. I'm not talking about novelty here. I'm talking about 10 kids who are going to wait because they like themselves just the way they are, and they have a lot to do before marriage and kids. They are helping in other countries, they are in college working on community projects. They visit the sick and make dozens of sandwiches every month to take the homeless and the soup kitchens. They are engaging in activities that dogs can't do and using the energy of their youth to make a difference. 14 : Why can't parents teach both things? The importance of abstinence and the importance of health protection? I am going to educate my daughter and son...about the health risks and how to prevent them as well as the emotional risks...and how to prevent them. 15 : Ok- I did have a smart a...ed answer till I read your question all the way. So. From a woman who actually knows people with the promise rings etc. here's my answer. The promise ring is token between the parent and herself "promising" to guard her purity till marriage when that ring is replaced by her husband's. We're homeschoolers. I know many people who believe exactly like this. My best friend's daughter has one and is extremely serious ( and in a committed relationship with a man who agrees with this.) Now, for my opinion. I want my kids to stay virgins as far as our religion teaches. Because, if you don't live your religion, well what's the point in having one, right? BUT I am much more liberal in my thinking than some of the people I know. I believe too much sheltering often leads to either your kid being stupid, and thus in danger, or total rebellion on the part of the kids. I teach my kids what the Bible says about sex. And then I add, (which is true) I'm not going to be holding their hand when they decide whether or not to get naked. So, if they choose premarital sex - be safe. I know I'll catch it from the ultra conservatives, but my kids talk to me openly and that's so important. They shouldn't die from aids for a sin. That's stupidity. BTW One child chose to be active one didn't. 16 : I am not cristian but i am a indian hindu & in our community such things very rarely happen (though evil has started his campaign in here now a days) & as per our elders ,to lose viginity to any other person than your wife is a sin. as per bhagvatgeeta maayaa are evil desires . & when it takes you over (that is when you start persuing desires & lose your morales & goodness ) you buy fun on the cost of your minds peace., most of people here dont heed these desires & gain peace. If you suppress the hormones that make you keen for sex everytime they flow especially in teens, you will no longer think anything evil about women however they try to attract you.this will bring you happiness in teens & in your marriage life I told you this all because this will help you to know hat HEALTH OF YOUR CHILD & EASE OF MIND CAN BE ATTAINED AT THE SAME TIME you just need to have a lot of patience & need to know the value of your morales in your teens (i am myself 17 & i have attained this state to some extent that means this is possible ) 17 : Teens using birth control means they had to plan to have sex, and we can't have that. Only whores plan for sex. Good girls get carried away with the moment, they're not really being sinful, it was just a mistake, right? They can feel ashamed and guilty later, its all good, as long as we can make them feel bad about doing what is in their nature. *Tongue firmly planted in cheek* 18 : My child health by far. My daughters boyfriend took a chastity class at his church and did the purity ring ceremony. Both him and his Dad told us, as the parents of his girlfriend, our daughter, that he took this vow and blah, blah, blah. Now, I have a two year old grandson --go figure. Read more discussions :
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Monday, April 28, 2008
Christians - what is more important - your child's health, or your mind at ease
