First let me say....My husband comes from a VERY dysfunctional family. The issue is...my brother-in-law has been diagnosed with AIDS, also MRSA, and he is very irresponsible, poor hygiene, doesn't follow doctors orders and basically doesn't have much regard for others. My husband & I don't feel comfortable having our toddler around him. We are both very aware that AIDS isn't "contagious" as most folks make it out to be, but we are also aware of the other health conditions that come with and that he doens't even care for his own health, much less anyone else. A toddler is very hard to monitor and very susceptible to catching colds, etc. MIL, BIL and family do not see our concern & are mad at us for not coming around . They're all very irresponsible in taking care of themselves. Would you allow your toddler around this type of carelessness????????? Are we overreacting? There is so much more I could tell about this family but it would take years to explain thier antics...
Toddler & Preschooler - 8 Answers
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I would tell them that they need to come to you so you could monitor the activity/contact. If your BIL is dirty and not taking care of himself than he could pass other illnesses to your son. As far as the MIL she needs to understand. MILs are almost impossible to deal with these days. I swear almost every one I know has issues with their MILs.
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Why not plan outings together where your son will be busy playing and not necessarily having to touch your in-laws like going to the park or Chuck E Cheese where your son can be observed by the family but they aren't touching him all the time like in the house. I really can't think of better idea. Also, don't be afraid to tell everyone to wash hands or use anti-bacterial gel to help cut down on germs. I usually just pull it out, use it myself, and then pass it around.
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You're not overreacting. MRSA is serious, and you don't want your child to have it. What you need to do is go have a chat with your pediatrician to assess the risks. When he or she gives you an answer addressing the MRSA and possibility of infection and what it could do to your toddler, then you tell your MIL that you are following your pediatrician's recommendations, and that she is free to schedule an appointment with said doctor if she wishes to do so so she can hear it too. Then stick to your guns, because you have the baby's best interests in mind. It might not be pretty, but it's better than a sick baby.
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Your child should always come first, even before your family's feelings. I don't think you are overreacting, just being a good parent. If they don't understand your concern, they don't have your childs best at mind. Let them be mad.
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"Are certain people at increased risk for community-associated staph or MRSA infections? CDC has investigated clusters of CA-MRSA skin infections among athletes, military recruits, children, Pacific Islanders, Alaskan Natives, Native Americans, men who have sex with men, and prisoners. Factors that have been associated with the spread of MRSA skin infections include: close skin-to-skin contact, openings in the skin such as cuts or abrasions, contaminated items and surfaces, crowded living conditions, and poor hygiene. How can I prevent staph or MRSA skin infections? Practice good hygiene: Keep your hands clean by washing thoroughly with soap and water or using an alcohol-based hand sanitizer. Keep cuts and scrapes clean and covered with a bandage until healed. Avoid contact with other people’s wounds or bandages. Avoid sharing personal items such as towels or razors. ... Can I get a staph or MRSA infection at my health club? In the outbreaks of MRSA, the environment has not played a significant role in the transmission of MRSA. MRSA is transmitted most frequently by direct skin-to-skin contact. You can protect yourself from infections by practicing good hygiene (e.g., keeping your hands clean by washing with soap and water or using an alcohol-based hand rub and showering after working out); covering any open skin area such as abrasions or cuts with a clean dry bandage; avoiding sharing personal items such as towels or razors; using a barrier (e.g., clothing or a towel) between your skin and shared equipment; and wiping surfaces of equipment before and after use. If I have a staph, or MRSA skin infection, what can I do to prevent others from getting infected? You can prevent spreading staph or MRSA skin infections to others by following these steps: Cover your wound. Keep wounds that are draining or have pus covered with clean, dry bandages. Follow your healthcare provider’s instructions on proper care of the wound. Pus from infected wounds can contain staph and MRSA, so keeping the infection covered will help prevent the spread to others. Bandages or tape can be discarded with the regular trash. Clean your hands. You, your family, and others in close contact should wash their hands frequently with soap and warm water or use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer, especially after changing the bandage or touching the infected wound. Do not share personal items. Avoid sharing personal items such as towels, washcloths, razors, clothing, or uniforms that may have had contact with the infected wound or bandage. Wash sheets, towels, and clothes that become soiled with water and laundry detergent. Drying clothes in a hot dryer, rather than air-drying, also helps kill bacteria in clothes. Talk to your doctor. Tell any healthcare providers who treat you that you have or had a staph or MRSA skin infection. " http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/dhqp/ar_mrsa_ca_public.html That is from THE CDC--doesn't get more conservative than that organization. LOGICAL conclusion: a toddler should NOT be around a person who has MRSA and is careless about hygiene. Frankly, I never had kids, but I'd be damned if I'd have a small child I didn't have total control of (would be a rare child) around someone with a known MRSA condition who did not take it seriously and was well-educated on preventing transmission. If people want to have an attitude about LOGICAL caution, that's THEIR personal problem, don't make it yours.
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Oh, heck no. When it comes to my kids forget the rest. I don't care what they think of me, they can hate me and talk all they want. Aids is not contagious by MRSA is. So if they do not understand that they can go to hell. If you husband is okay with that and understand like you do then thats all you need. Don't live for ignorant people like that. Let me just tell you when my kids have a virus infection my cousins don't visit me because of that, why because they have kids of their own. Why would they want to risk their kids health. I understand that and thats just a virus cold.
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If your husband agrees, limit contact to the family-in-law, he can always go to see his family by himself. MRSA is TERRIBLYcontagious, and a terrible thing to have. You would always have to tell a doctor or a hospital that you have been in contact with it and they might even put you in isolation rooms until a test came back clean. You should really go to your doctor and get tested to see if you have it, and talk about the dangers of MRSA to them. Aids is less easy to catch, but if your BIL is so irresponsible you should limit contact.
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Keep the kid (and probably yourself too) away!!! MRSA is horrible, how could they even expect you to expose a child to that?! Send pictures and videos if you want him to see your toddler.
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